Chivalry-what's that?

When did meeting for the first time at your place or theirs become the ' ok' thing to do? Whatever happened to chivalry? A man courting a woman first before inviting himself to your home before he has gotten to know you? Pondering questions I feel the need to ask the opposite sex.

On any given day most men will beat around the bush about their true intentions, others will get straight to the point. What could be a man's true intentions for wanting to come over and lay up on your sofa? Is it the thought that counts? You think to yourself how sweet, a man who wants to spend quality time with you.

I asked a group of men what they liked to do on a first date after a few conversations over the phone and a few back and forth emails not all but a few recommended that it would be ok to meet a woman at their place or theirs to ' just hangout' I'm not sure about most women but I know for me I question the concept of inviting someone I hardly know to my house HELLO CRAIG LIST KILLER?

I guess we haven't watched enough news reports to think those horror stories we hear about could ever happen to us.

I love the thought of a first date, the first encounter I would hope that experience would be something I could gleam about. If I'm stuck in my place all day the very last place I want to be on a first date is in my home or someone elses.

I really wanted to know what the men thought about when they heard the word Chivalry or Courting. For a few no surprises there, compared the two to having died with the 80's.

Mj63 single black man no kids 34 yrs old answered chivalry doesn't exist anymore because men wised up. What did men wise up about? ' never got a response' Whats so wrong with being courteous and respectful?

Jarrad1976 father of two answered that chivalry hasn't died and that a man wants what he wants at that exact moment. When he meets the right one then he will do whatever to make it work.

When I think about it maybe it's more about us- women and what we allow in our relationships. Are we settling for less than nothing? There is a possibility that women accepted chivalry and the right to be courted by men die. Setting the path of being too independent and aggressive that we lost the respect men has for women as a whole.

I'm still holding onto the belief that I'm a woman who can allow a man to be a man. Chivalry didn't die atleast thats what I expect from a man who truly wants to get to know me.

I'm through with just having a man in my bed...I want a man in my head.